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Pre-marriage Maintenance: What’s Inside

Pre-marriage Maintenance is a practical, instant-download guide packed with clear, proven advice you can put to work today.

The best time to strengthen a marriage is before it begins. Most couples wait until something is wrong.

Engagement is one of the most optimistic periods in any relationship — which makes it the perfect time to build the foundations that the marriage will need. Yet most couples spend enormous energy on the wedding and almost none on preparing for what comes after.

Pre-Marriage Maintenance is the guide couples should read together before they say ‘I do’ — covering the conversations you haven’t had, the expectations you haven’t shared, and the foundations that separate marriages that flourish from those that quietly falter.

This book is for you if

You’re engaged and want to do more than plan a wedding — you want to build a great marriage	You and your partner have never explicitly talked about finances, family, or the future
You want to enter marriage with your expectations aligned, not assumed	You’ve seen other marriages struggle and want to approach yours differently

This isn’t about spotting red flags or preparing for the worst. It’s about building the communication habits and shared understanding that make a long, happy marriage genuinely possible.

What’s inside — 7 chapters

Chapter 1

The conversations every couple needs to have

From finances to family to faith — the topics most couples avoid until they become problems.

Chapter 2

Money and marriage

How to align on finances before you share them — budgets, debts, goals and the money habits that make or break marriages.

Chapter 3

Family, roles and expectations

Navigating in-laws, household responsibilities, and the unspoken assumptions both of you carry from your upbringing.

Chapter 4

Children: the big conversation

If, when, how many, and how to raise them — a guide to having this conversation properly before it becomes urgent.

Chapter 5

Conflict before it happens

Building the communication tools and repair habits you’ll need before you actually need them.

Chapter 6

Individual goals inside a shared life

How to honour each other’s ambitions, friendships, and identity within the structure of a marriage.

Chapter 7

Your shared vision

Building a picture of the marriage you both want — and aligning on how you’ll build it together.

Product details

Format

PDF — any device

Length

~90 pages

Delivery

Instant download

Access

Yours forever

What readers are saying

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“We did every exercise in this book before our wedding. Six months into marriage and we’ve had zero major arguments. Preparation matters.”

Ben & Sarah L.

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“Chapter 2 on money opened a conversation we’d both been avoiding for a year. Essential to have before you’re legally tied financially.”

Rob T.

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“Our pre-marital counsellor recommended this. It complemented the sessions perfectly and went deeper on some topics.”

Priya & James O.

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“Really thoughtful and thorough. The children chapter in particular sparked a discussion we needed to have much earlier.”

Clara W.

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“Bought this six months before our wedding. I credit it with saving us from at least two major arguments that would have blindsided us.”

David F.

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“Chapter 5 on conflict before it happens is wisdom I wish I’d had before my first marriage. Sharing it with everyone I know who’s engaged.”

Donna M.

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“We read this aloud to each other over three weekends. The discussions it sparked were the most important of our relationship.”

Alex & Maya R.

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“The shared vision chapter at the end was beautiful. We wrote our own version together. It’s on our fridge.”

Charlotte K.

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A note before you buy: This guide works best when both partners engage with it — though it can be read solo to prepare for the conversations. Think of it as the investment your wedding dress or suit is not.

Explore more in our relationship guides, and see The Gottman Institute for research-based relationship insights.